Ecc. 4:9-12 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. 10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? 12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (KJV)
Loneliness is a horrible emotional condition. In a world of 7 billion people multitudes are afflicted with everyday. Loneliness is more than just an emotional issue it is a physical problem as well.
Solomon tells us that there is great reward for partnership or what we call team work. Companions get greater results for their labor. If you have a real friend you always have a helping hand. You can keep one another warm. A two-person defense team is better than a person defending him or her self, alone. And a cord made of more than one strand is much stronger than a single cord could ever be.
In America we extol the virtues of independence but what we really need is inter-dependence. Instead of living and working alone we need companions. God created us as social creatures. This is the reason that “solitary confinement” in such a harsh punishment. Human beings must have social communication and physical interaction.
Accept this truth, working or suffering for prolonged periods of time without companions is a resolvable dilemma. In order to have friends you must prove yourself to be a friend. It will open you up to hurt, but it will also expand your possibility and capacity to give and receive love. You need love but you have to give some to get some. I call it God’s law of multiplying what we have. It is the oldest law in the Bible. The Law of the Farm. Plant in order to reap.
PRAYER: Lord, help me to always be mindful of my need for others. Help me to be the kind of friend others need and send me the friends that I need. Teach me to learn to rely on friends more while at the same time making sure that I do not abuse their friendship. Thank You Lord for the wonderful friends that I do have. Continue to bless them and provide for them in every area of life. In Jesus’ Name, amen.
COMMITMENT: I will be a friend to all who will allow me to be. Every person who comes into my life is important. I will seek to have a life-long relationship with every person God sends into my life. I have no disposable relationships. My love and loyalty are not for sale nor can they be taken from me. It is my choice to befriend the lonely and the broken hearted. I choose to be a “low maintenance ” friend. I do not have to be thanked, patted on the back, encouraged, given gifts, called or even spoken to in order to continue my loyalty. I will not allow jealousy; envy or hurt will rob me of my friendships. I will remain a devoted friend forever! That is my choice!